If you are looking for happiness, you have come to the right place. I learned the secret years ago that changed my life -
|do your eyes crinkle when you smile?|
Today, I am happy, positive, vibrant, youthful and completely happy, no matter where I am or who I am with.
None of the old insecurities or pain are present. I am more healthy and fit now than I was twenty years ago. What changed? I let go of my old story, cleared the patterns, emotions and old beliefs that no longer served me and grew to totally love and accept myself and what is.
I stopped focusing on my problems and issues and looked at the infinite possibilities for myself instead. I stopped trying to be the perfect wife, mother, and daughter. I stopped trying to please everyone else, which left me resentful and angry. I began to look inside me for what was causing me pain and suffering rather than looking for a stop-gap measure like a relationship, new home or place to make me happy. I recognized that happiness comes from me, rather than something outside of me.
NOTE from Jennifer:
There is a lot of information on this page - it is like an e-book or workshop. Come back and re-read it often. Be consistent with this work and notice the changes that occur.
|I blamed others for my unhappiness|
I used to be the poster child for negativity and victimhood. I was suffering emotionally, physically in terrible pain and negativity. I wasn't happy with my job, where I lived or my marriage. I had severe trauma in childhood that continued to cause me pain in my adulthood unconsciously.
I constantly bashed myself with my thoughts and words. I was surrounded by others who gossiped, complained and joined me in my misery.
|"Faking it" was my middle name|
No matter what successes I had, it was never enough. I was always looking for more. I had addictions to food, sweets, shopping, sex and relationships.
I jumped from one bad relationship to another, till I found I was the common denominator in all my relationships!
I pushed my energy to make things happen. I didn't recognize the ease or beauty of allowing and creating with my thoughts. I didn't see that I always had a choice of how I perceived events in my life. I didn't take responsibility for creating with my thoughts. Nor did I recognize that The Universe is always supporting us by reflecting our thoughts back to us through life events to show us what we are thinking.
The Good News!
After thirty years of work on my self-esteem, I found that self-love leads to happiness. Since I found the path to happiness and live in it every day, I can help guide you there as well. Whether you read my blog, books or do private sessions with me, being here will help you. I learned the secret to permanent happiness. I am happy to share it with you. When you are happy with yourself, your life and relationships improve, you begin to find joy in small things.
Begin shifting your life for a joy-filled existence by doing the following daily.
How would it be if all your thoughts were self-hating? How would it be for you and your life if your thoughts were all loving? How different would your life be if you were happy with you?
2. Surround yourself with happy, positive people. Negative people bring us down. Some relationships do not support a positive mindset. Pick your friends carefully, they are very important. There are many people that want you to join them in their misery, like me (in the past). Relationships are either anchors or sails. They either boost you or drag you down. Choose your friends wisely.
3. Use mantras and affirmations daily. We have the power to re-program our mind when we replace negative thoughts consistently with mantras. A mantra is a phrase which is repeated silently or out loud multiple times a day for 21 days or more. It takes 21 days to change a bad habit. Negative thinking is habitual and often obsessive. It can be overcome with daily mantras. My mind became silent when I did mantras back in 2007. No more negative mind chatter. This stuff works! Pick one and do it for a whole month, slowly in the background of your mind, while you shower, drive, cook, and work. Just watch what happens. Let me know how you did! Or message me on FaceBook.
I LOVE ME
I AM LOVED
I AM SAFE
I AM SECURE
Here is one I learned when I did my hypnotherapy course in 1998.
Every day in every way, my life is getting better and better.4. Get some help. Hire a coach that has healed their past and loves themselves. Ask for help from your loved ones to shift your perspective and thoughts. There are other ways to get help as well. Prayers are answered, ask: "How can I love and accept myself completely?"
5. Be grateful for yourself, being alive and all that you have now. When life is good and things are easy, gratitude is easy. You just got a promotion? YAY! Say thank you! You just managed to pay your rent with forty-five cents left over? YAY! Thank you! You just woke up this morning? YAY! THANK YOU!
Gratitude opens your heart and is the fastest way to shift your thoughts from negative to positive. Write a list of things daily that you are grateful for. Reflect on how you would feel if you had absolutely nothing, like homeless people. Then go back and write with a grateful heart all the things you are truly grateful for.
Maybe you can't think of anything to feel grateful for? Watch this video and then say a prayer for having a body, arms, legs, teeth, the ability to walk, swim and run.
6. Be present. Focusing on what you didn't do in the past (regrets, shame, guilt) or what could potentially happen in the future causes you to suffer. When we resist being in the present moment we miss out on life. When we are distracted by the past story we can't move into a new way of being today.
7. Choose happiness. Every day we have the gift of choice. Make the conscious choice to be happy. Instead of getting upset about something ask yourself how you can choose something different? How can I look at this situation to learn and grow instead of complaining? What am I learning here? Where have I experienced this in the past? How can I feel differently about this situation? How is it helping me? What good can come out of this situation?
|Near South Park, CO|
They know what I do works!
What challenges do you have? Is there anything you would add to these nine steps? Send me an e-mail with your feedback. I would love to hear from you.
Testimonial From A Mother:
Hi Jennifer,I am so amazed and delighted in the difference that you have helped Lauren achieve thus far!!! Her whole aura and energy has totally changed. I saw Lauren smile & really laugh for the first time since Nov 2015!!! I'm so grateful for you and your wonderful, kind and compassionate work with her. You are a God-Send.Also, the energy in the whole house has changed, it feels sweet and clear, no negativity hanging around. Julie
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE.
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